A Feminist Wife

Dear Readers,
Many of you want to know me better, want to understand my position and want to know what my book is about. So as not to be misunderstood, I need to make something very clear. I am a feminist.

The true meaning behind the feminist movement is equality between the sexes. I cherish our rights: Equal pay for equal work, the right to choose, anti-violence against women, access to birth control, leadership in government at world leadership levels, equal opportunity for education, and the freedom to pursue anything we desire.

I am a feminist. I am a mother of two daughters and would vehemently stand up against anyone threatening to reduce these rights so many women fought so hard to achieve. I am thankful to women who broke molds like, Susan B.Anthony who wrote the Declaration of Rights for Women in 1876 and Elizabeth Blackwell, the first woman to become a physician.

I am also a wife. And, what I've learned from 22 years as a wife and as a woman who was raised during the feminist movement is that we can unite the two sides. There doesn't have to be the stay at home moms vs the working mothers - we are both. We are women. There doesn't have to be the working women vs the homemakers - We are both. We are women.

I do not believe that a woman's place is in the home and write now to make that perfectly clear. Because I have learned how to keep a man happy and I like to cook should not, and I will not let it, categorize me as "old fashioned." It is true that I love to be at home and think it is the best place on earth. Because I like creating a wonderful domestic life, doesn't mean I'm 1950's mentality. There have been plenty of years in my marriage that I brought home more "bacon" than my husband, but all the while I still loved nurturing my husband and my domestic side.

For many women, nurturing and being feminine is natural. It is a gift to be a woman. Men crave this feminine side of us and it has little to do with our rights in society. Why can't we have both!? I see that the feminist movement was a rocky path and that it bamboozled men. Many men agree with us, and they don't want to be hated.
I think they miss feminine women.

Why did we have to destroy family values and tradition in the path of feminine freedom? Did you know that 2/3 of all divorces are filed by women? Perhaps this statistic is influenced by violence or infidelity by a husband. Of course, I agree with our right to divorce and I have a zero tolerence for both behaviors!

In Happily Wed and Happily Fed my story meets tradition with feminine freedom, at home, where I nurture my man. Delenee