Never Say the "D" word

Never Say the “D” Word
Trust me on this. I mean it. Regardless of what he did or how mad and hurt you are, you can NEVER, EVER say, “I want a divorce.”
The “D” word is the death of a marriage. Remember that. Your need to say it will pass. Be patient. Emotions are like currents; they ebb and flow. Difficult situations will evolve and resolutions will come forth. Trust that they will, in time. Just don’t say the “D” word, ever. I know a couple that loosely tosses the phrase out when talking about each other and threaten each other with divorce every time they argue. Don’t throw this hurtful phrase in your spouse’s face in the heat of the moment or in a negative mood. You can’t erase that “D” once you said it. Once said, it is difficult to remove its weight. Respect your spouse and yourself. Respect the marriage! You made a commitment for happy ever after¾why then would you ever dishonor yourself, your word, your promise and your marriage? Get working positively towards solutions to your problems, instead of poisoning your marriage with the big ugly “D.”
Glenn and I promised early in our marriage to never say the “D” word. Coming from a background of multiple divorces in my family, I knew we had to be firm about this rule. Each of us has, a few times, started to or wanted to say the other no-no words, “leave” or “separate”, but the feeling and moment passed. It does. Once, I literally bit my tongue to keep from speaking and I could only communicate through nodding. It worked.